In a world that constantly quantifies and rewards speed, results and instant gratification, it’s no surprise that many people approach healing with a similar mindset. I often hear phrases like “I just want to feel better,” or “How long will it take?” And, yes, these are valid and natural needs or questions - after all, no one enjoys pain, confusion or emotional discomfort, do they? But when we become fixated on outcomes, we risk missing the most powerful and transformative part of healing: the process itself. At the heart of holistic therapy, whether it’s hypnotherapy, energy work or any complementary approach, lies a deeper truth - healing is not a destination. It’s a relationship with yourself that unfolds moment by moment. And if we focus more on our needs in this very moment of being, change doesn't seem as daunting. If we focus on the skills, tools and motivation we have right now, we can use them to our advantage. If we deal with the present, the fear of change and the challenges that may come with it - which can be very real, by the way - often diminish.
When someone comes into therapy expecting a specific outcome - “I want to stop feeling anxious,” or “I need to get over this trauma” - they often carry an invisible pressure. They may begin to measure each session by how 'close' they feel to that goal. If progress feels slow or nonlinear (which it almost always does), frustration sets in. Doubt creeps in. And sometimes, people even walk away too soon, thinking it “isn’t working.” But healing is rarely a straight line. It is cyclical, layered and deeply personal. Expecting a neat, tidy end point is like asking a flower to bloom overnight - it ignores the beauty and necessity of the process of growth.
When we shift the focus from “When will I be healed?” to “What am I learning right now?” everything changes.
Hypnotherapy, in particular, is a beautiful modality for process-based healing. It helps access the subconscious - the realm where root causes live, far beneath the surface symptoms we’re so eager to fix. In a hypnotherapy session, rather than forcing change, we create a space for allowing - for curiosity, compassion and reconnection with the inner self. Healing may come as a deep realisation, a shift in inner dialogue or the softening of a long-held pattern. But it doesn’t always arrive with fireworks or a sense of finality. Often, it unfolds quietly.
So if you’re on a healing journey - whether you’re dealing with stress, trauma, self-doubt or a desire to reconnect with your purpose - consider releasing the tight grip on 'how long it will take.' Instead, try asking:
In my practice, I hold space for this kind of unfolding. There is no rush. There is no pressure to 'get somewhere.' There is only the invitation to come home to yourself, layer by layer, breath by breath. Because true healing doesn’t arrive in a single moment - it’s revealed in the many moments you choose to stay present, curious and open.